Not that I am complaining but…That’s what I have been hearing every day, all day for the last 31 days I have been here!
Near Walking Street of Pattaya, Thailand, I hear that compliment from mostly every Thai woman I come across!
Actually I really appreciate hearing women call me Beautiful because in the United States majority of women are trying to compete with me or look at me up and down with a stank face. When deep down it’s because they want to tell me I am Beautiful but they cannot due to their insecurities.
Since I touched down from the Bangkok Airport, I have yet to see another Black American female.
I am the only one!
I was wondering why? Why am I the only Black American female I see, others see. I’m sure they visit Thailand but where are they?
Some individuals in Thailand have never seen a Black American Woman before and never thought they will, in their lifetime! Crazy Right? But it’s true.
Kind of explains why I get unlimited amount of stares! Not disrespectful stares but stares of curiosity or being intrigued, by children, men and women.
However, the Thai women call me Sexy and Beautiful for 3 Major Reasons:
My Protective HairStyle – Individual Box Braids with Hair Jewelry and String
Sounds basic? Not!!! Thai Women love my hair! A few women have came up to me and ask to touch it. Each time, they are in disbelief that I can carry this much hair.
One lady grabbed my hair and said, “oooo its not heavy!” with such a surprised look.
To them, the accessories in my hair speaks status of royalty. And a reminder of hope that one day, us moors, will take back the land that was once ours, to create a smooth flow in the world and universe.
The fact that dressing fashionable is such a status out here is hilarious! Everyone thinks my husband and I are rappers from New York. Why you may ask? Because their television shows either shows us really poor,dirty,domestic or as an entertainer, so they assume since we are fashionable and upkept we are entertainers. Little do they know we are just investors and I CAN NOT SING AT ALL!
My self-love and confidence exudes outside myself giving me a natural glow that speaks from my inner God to their Inner God.
Self-Love is a daily and constant work that I have started, consciously, a year ago. As soon as I started working on self,consciously, I become lighter. Literally, I was getting rid of the extra weight that was holding me down from moving forward into my destiny and/or purpose. It was people, stress, literal weight, unhealthy habits, dealing with past childhood traumas or astro-traveling to my past or younger self and be there for myself to get the necessary tools to become my best self.
Every morning, I meditate and connect with nature, myself, the God with me, then to universe and beyond. I give myself Love. Tell myself why I love myself, what I forgive myself for and what I plan to accomplish today in honor of my love for self. I was excited to learn that every day there is a guided meditation, where I am staying in Pattaya, Thailand. It zens the whole community.
Meditation and Energy is a serious and necessary daily task for the Thai People and for myself. Connecting myself to everyone and everything around me and they sense that I am on the same vibration as them. Another surprise for them to witness and see!
I love changing people’s point of view to a more positive one and I think I have accomplish that with Thailand,in a simple way: positive energy.
Watch the Video Below to hear the Meditation sounds of Pattaya Thailand that zens the whole community!
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